So Discord finally responded to my email. I asked them specifically what I did wrong, and they gave me yet another list of possible things I could've done. They said it was either spam or platform abuse.
This makes me more sure that I was banned because I was closing my old DMs too quickly using the official client.
They said they'd lift my ban once *generously* (/s). I hate these fucking centralised services.
@ascclemens you ought to ditch Discord like the two-bit garbage it is
Use open chat platforms
@sir I already use Matrix and IRC, and I used XMPP before that. Unfortunately, much like Windows, Discord has the market share and it's very hard to get even close friends to switch, let alone entire communities.
@ascclemens your close friends would come with you. If not, how close are they really? And fun fact: there are new people who want to be your friend on other platforms, too. FOMO no matter what you do.
@sir I'm not interested in making new friends on new platforms. My close friends might begrudgingly come with me and then forget to open the app because they use it only to talk to one person.
I've already been through this with XMPP and Matrix, twice for each.
Also, there are a large number of communities that are primarily on Discord. I write plugins for a game, and their primary chat and news source is a Discord server. That's not even FOMO; that's just a major hindrance to my ability to maintain and create plugins.
I don't like Discord, but it has become the easy, default option for most people. The same people who don't realise or don't care that Google is actively harvesting all their information, which is a lot of people.
It's not realistic for me to just turn off Discord.
@ascclemens so how the fuck do you expect this to change if you're being part of the "my friends are there" problem
@sir I tried to move and it didn't work. I'm not going to estrange myself from my friends in the name of open chat platforms. Maybe the entire onus shouldn't be on people moving.
@ascclemens you haven't answered the question
@sir > Maybe the entire onus shouldn't be on people moving.
In the end, it's not my job to change it.
I did my part and attempted to get people to move; it just doesn't stick because it has to be more than one person doing it, I think.
@ascclemens this still doesn't answer the question
@sir I'm fairly certain I've made it clear that my answer is "I don't know, it's not my job to do so." Maybe community leaders should delete their Discords and move to open chat platforms instead of individual people.
@ascclemens here we go, this is a good idea: we should convince community leaders to move to open platforms.
@sir The staying power Discord has is the number of communities people are already in, I think, so if more move to open platforms, they'll have a reason to stick around.
@qrsbrwn Then it's a good thing that I don't care if you think it's flattering or not. The reality is that in the real world, there are lots of people who can't just turn off proprietary software completely. I can still complain about being forced to use it. I use the alternative open software, too.
@qrsbrwn Except that I am forced to use it. Sorry, it's not an *option* for me to keep up social relationships with my friends, especially in the corona times. No, they're not going to switch platform; we've already been over this.
@qrsbrwn It's a choice that isn't really a choice. Sure, I could choose to estrange myself from my friends of several years because they... use Discord? Does that seem like the correct answer to you? Real life requires compromise; we can't live in idealised imaginary worlds.
That's just life of an early adopter.
My current goal is to simplify matrix for my circle, bridge every channel on slack, and the wait. It's like building a roads, the settlers will come.
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